Guidelines

These describe the culture we want to protect.

What tnkoo is about

A first conversation with someone going to the same gathering. Presence, curiosity, and human connection without pressure.

It's okay to be quiet. It's okay to leave. It's okay not to click.

Presence

tnkoo requires a profile photo.

You do not need to look a certain way. You do need to show up as yourself.

Guest lists and invitations

Use your own invited email. Do not impersonate an attendee or try to use someone else’s invitation. Organizers should only import emails they have permission to use.

Joining an event is a choice to participate. It does not oblige anyone to take a call, share personal details, or meet you in person.

Respect

• Respect boundaries.
• Consent matters in conversation, tone, and direction.
• No one owes you attention, intimacy, or explanation.
• If someone is uncomfortable, let the moment pass.

Voice etiquette

• Give the call a chance.
• Silence is allowed.
• Leaving without explanation is allowed.
• Do not pressure someone to speak.

Not allowed

• Harassment or bullying
• Coercion or manipulation
• Hate speech or propaganda
• Disinformation
• Recording others without consent

Discouraged

• Premature romantic or sexual advances
• Asking for personal information too early
• Repeatedly pushing or bothering others

Encouraged

• Thoughtful conversation
• Curiosity and openness
• Leaving conversations better than you found them

If something feels wrong

You can leave a call at any time.

You can block users.

You can report behavior that crosses a line.

You don't need to justify protecting yourself.

A final note

The gathering belongs to everyone who shows up. Bring the same respect to a call that you would bring to the room.

Help us keep it human.